Red flags of infidelity fly over this household
Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I have lived together for four years. He is in his 20s and I am in my early 30s.
We are working and struggling to get by. I never had any problem trusting him until recently.
He suddenly started hiding his phone and going out more without me. He used to always just leave his phone lying around. I never even looked through his phone, but when he started hiding it, I felt like something was wrong. He also started mentioning a female co-worker.
I asked what was going on. He denies anything is happening. He let me see the phone, but he had deleted all of his texts -- sent and received.
I'm having a hard time believing him. He said he had a work event one day, but I found out later that this work event had actually happened on the previous day.
I have a feeling something is going on, but I have no proof. It is very hard for us to break up right now because we share a car. He also wouldn't have anywhere to live. If he is not cheating, then I don't want to break up.
If he is cheating, then I want to break up, but I don't want him to lose his job or housing.
If it's just a workplace flirtation, then I wouldn't care, I just don't like the lying and hiding.
And if there is nothing going on (like he says), then why is he lying?
Should I break up with him because I don't trust him, or should I try to work on things?
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