Discovery of long-lost child challenges marriage
Dear Amy: I have an extremely happy marriage of 11 years.
Our lives were just about perfect, and then my husband found out that he was the father of a girl born 50 years ago. This was a one-night stand, and the child's mother gave the baby up for adoption.
This biological daughter now has three children of her own.
Almost overnight my husband now has a daughter and three grandchildren!
He and his daughter have been exchanging photos, text messages and phone calls. I know there is a future meeting on the horizon.
I am having a VERY difficult time with this. I feel like everything has been turned upside down.
It's hard for me to be happy for him; I don't know how far he will take this.
She loves her adoptive parents, and lives in a different state. Her biological mother passed away recently.
This situation has really stressed me out; I'm on board one day and then blow up the next.
He is 73 and I am 70. I feel like this is an intrusion into our happy lives.
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