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Dear Amy: I met a lady on an internet site two years ago, and four months later, we were married. Everything was wonderful at first, but eventually the honeymoon was over and the reality of life set in.

I found out that she had been in the country illegally, but by then I had fallen in love and decided to claim her for legal status. She received the legal papers four months ago, so she is a citizen now.

I work as a registered nurse on the night shift, so my salary is enough to take care of a normal household, but ours doesn't seem to be a normal household.

For our first Christmas together, she asked "Santa" for liposuction, at a cost of $7,600.

I told her that I didn't have that kind of money, so she suggested that we start saving. She refuses to work.

At first, she told me that she would work when she got legal status. Now that she has the right to work, she tells me that she will only look for employment when she is ready.

Last year, we argued over her wanting to spend money on overseas trips, all the while reminding me that Santa still had not delivered what she had asked.

She also seems to have a drinking problem, and has blacked out at least once from drinking.

Three months ago, I got the surprise of my life when my wife's 31-year-old son turned up. He has no place to stay, and she asked me if he could move in with us for a period of six months.

I agreed, because I would never turn my back on someone that needs help.

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