Lonely woman wonders how to make friends
Let's rip off the bandage quickly. The command comes in. You and your husband say, "Thank you, but we're not going to do this."
They ask why, and you say, "For a bunch of reasons. Also, we just don't want to." Rinse and repeat as often as necessary.
The bulldozing will commence. Respond: "Well, I know this is not what you want, but it's what we want. We can't go on vacations when you can. But we hope you have a great time!"
Dealing with professional-grade bulldozing requires constant girding, responding calmly and pushing back when necessary.
Dear Amy: I was disgusted by your awful answer to "Always a Cat Lady." Her so-called "boyfriend" claimed to be allergic and she was going to give her cat away because of it. Really? I bet he was faking his allergy. She should keep the cat and dump him!
-- Cat Lover
Dear Cat Lover: Cat lovers definitely have their claws out regarding this answer. But "Always a Cat Lady" reported that her cat was suffering, for reasons unrelated to the boyfriend and his allergies. Rehoming was definitely best for the cat.
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