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Widow wants to part with late-husband's trophies

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Call your local trophy company to see if they are interested in having these to recycle (the name plates can be detached and replaced).

I also see trophies for sale at my local thrift store, where sometimes coaches will pick them up to present to young athletes.

Dear Amy: My husband and I have different work schedules, and we need different amounts of sleep.

As a result, I go to bed early and most nights he sits up late. For the past two years, he has been drinking a few cocktails after I go to bed, falling asleep on the sofa and then coming to bed between 2 and 3 a.m.

This usually happens one or two times a week, but recently it has increased to three or four nights a week.

First, I am concerned that interrupted sleep is bad for his health, but I am also concerned about his alcohol consumption. In addition, he usually wakes me up, and it is difficult for me to get back to sleep. I feel like I have a newborn again!

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I have tried talking to him about it, and he makes changes that last for weeks or even a few months, but then this pattern starts again.

Should we simply move into separate bedrooms so I can get the rest I need to function? Even if we have different rooms, it does not address his drinking. His drinking makes him somewhat sluggish and irritable in the morning, and he can be snappy with our children. However, he is not missing work, and is usually in a good mood in the evening when he returns from work.

-- Concerned Wife

Dear Concerned: Your husband's drinking is escalating. Sleeping in a separate bedroom will only enable this. This should be your last move -- not your first.


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