To combat addiction, try a social media 'fast'
-- Still Wondering After All These Years
Dear Still Wondering: Your sister is a potential go-between. She is in touch with your son and has proved capable of passing along a message (of sorts) from him. Can she help you now?
You can assume that your son's life path has taken many twists and turns, just as yours has. His feelings about the father he knew only briefly may have hardened, and so have yours. I hope you will try again. Write him a calm, informative letter about your own life. Tell him you never stopped thinking about him and that you've tried in many different ways to contact with him. Say that you will try to stay open to hearing about his feelings -- even if they are negative.
Dear Amy: "Anguished Mother" wondered about offering her young adopted son DNA testing to answer questions about his ethnicity.
I firmly disagree with your advice to make this available to him. He's too young, and he has dangerous family members who might find him if they learn of their connection.
-- Worried
Dear Worried: I agree that guarding the child's privacy is paramount. Thank you.
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