Long-buried secret resurfaces when principals die
Dear Amy: A year after my mother died, I woke up to the sounds of my father and my married aunt (my mother's sister) having sex in the living room.
I was 17 at the time and had to go to school the next morning. I was panicked that I would run across my aunt when leaving, since she was now in my father's bedroom down the short hall from my room.
I waited in my room until she left.
I never told any of my siblings or any other family or friends about this.
I did share this with a therapist, who suggested that I needed to tell at least one of my siblings, but I did not want to upset them or be accused of lying.
My father and I did not always have a great relationship as he was emotionally and verbally abusive to me.
All of this happened more than 30 years ago. My father recently died, my aunt died over a year ago.
I thought I had dealt with this and moved on years ago, but I am now feeling the need to share this secret with a sister.
I know this will hurt whoever I share it with, and I don't want to hurt anyone. Should I continue keeping this to myself?
-- Secret Keeper
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