Grandparents want alone-time with the grandkids
Dear Amy: We live out of town from our son, daughter-in-law and our three precious grandchildren. We fly to their town monthly to see them.
Our daughter-in-law's mother lives around the corner. She is divorced and her life is completely devoted to her daughter, our son and the grandchildren.
She has no boundaries and gives us no time alone with the kids when we visit.
I once tried to talk with her about it, but she ignored my thoughts.
Our son and daughter-in-law won't address this.
I once asked if we could spend some time alone with the grandchildren, and our DIL replied with a nasty text saying how dare I expect her mom to sit home alone while we're all together when visiting.
She is with them all weekend -- every week.
Our grandkids come to visit us one or two times a year and that is all the alone-time we have.
We've tried to discuss this with our son privately, but he gets defensive.
We fear risking an estrangement if we bring this up again.
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