Woman has transitioned from happy wife to 'old maid'
Dear Amy: I am a healthy and vibrant 40-year-old woman in a same-sex marriage. After only six months of marriage, I feel like an old maid.
My wife and I have suffered a lot of turmoil in a short time, with a death in the family, job loss, illness, financial problems and exes trying to come between us.
I understand that these things could cause a rift. However, the rift comes in the form of my wife constantly arguing with me, putting me down, always yelling at me and having a terrible attitude toward me.
I can't ask a simple question without being verbally attacked. I've talked to my wife about this, and she doesn't see it.
She makes fun of me when I say she has an "attitude in her voice," telling me that I'm taking things the wrong way.
She was on the phone with her sister the other night and I started crying uncontrollably because of the way she spoke to her sister. She was loving and affectionate, softly encouraging and full of love.
Amy, she hasn't spoken to me like that in months!
I feel like as soon as I said, "I do," all of her promises went out the window. I'm working twice as hard, she doesn't help with any household chores and I feel like her unappreciated servant.
When I bring this up, she accuses me of being mentally ill. She says that I need to be medicated and that we need counseling.
I agree with the counseling, but I do not have bipolar disorder, or any of the other mental illnesses she accuses me of having.
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