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Home DNA test yields heartbreaking surprise

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Also I keep thinking -- what if I had dated one of my own brothers?

I feel like I'm living in a soap opera.

What do you think about this?

-- DNA Regrets

Dear Regrets: The rise of at-home DNA testing seems to be transforming human relationships in a way that reminds me of some of the relational changes brought about by the rise of the internet.

I think it is important for people considering using a test kit to try to prepare themselves for -- or at least try to imagine -- a world-rocking shock, such as you have received.

 

In your case, I hope you will find someone to talk to about this. A professional counselor could offer you support and a fresh perspective.

Dear Amy: Two days ago, a good friend of mine (and mother of three) told me in confidence that she has been having an affair with a colleague from work. She has asked me not to share this information with my husband, as he is a good friend of her husband's. I agreed to keep the secret.

I want to honor her request, but I am also torn, as I now feel I am keeping a secret from my husband, whom I would usually turn to for advice. I want to be loyal to my friend, but was her request unreasonable?

-- Confused

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