Life with a hoarder has become a nightmare
I brought this to my son's attention and asked that she stop sending these nasty texts, but he doesn't seem to care that she's being disrespectful to me.
This has made me feel very uncomfortable about going over my son's house.
Should I hold out for an apology from her?
I have a feeling that no matter what I say to her it won't matter.
-- Uncomfortable Mama
Dear Mama: If you are receiving texts that make you uncomfortable, the first thing you should do is block that number from your phone, so you won't see them.
The next thing is to accept that your son has someone else in his life and do your best to get to know her. That means communicating respectfully (in person), even if you feel she is not.
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If you don't handle this well, you risk estrangement from your son and his children.
Dear Amy: Thank you for your compassion toward "Angry Father," who is wrestling with his rage after his wife's death. I agree that meeting with a "grief group" could be very helpful for him. It has made a world of difference to me.
-- Also Grieving
Dear Also Grieving: Meeting with others who gather to talk and support one another can help to heal from a loss. I know because I've done it.
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