ArcaMax

I have a small group of high school friends who live out of state, and another small group of college friends (all of whom live here in town). We decided to invite the high school friends since they were coming in from out of town and we don't get to see them often.

There is one high school friend who lives here in town. She is friends with our local college friends.

We decided to invite her to the happy hour, since she is part of the high school group who don't get to see each other often. When she found out we weren't inviting the in-town/college group, she said she wouldn't come. She claimed that it put her in an awkward situation, and that she didn't want an invite to a wedding event where other local people weren't included.

At first I was annoyed. Then mad. Then sad. I was looking for a drama-free, excited weekend. I certainly don't want to be walking on eggshells with someone I have known for most of my life.

I don't remember ever questioning someone else's event guest list.

Am I wrong?

-- Embarrassed Bride

Dear Bride: I'm going to suggest that you look at this episode as a grand opportunity.

The rudeness displayed by this particular friend should teach -- and then remind -- you to keep your eye on the ball during your wedding celebration.

You are correct that guests should not question a host's guest list. This particular pronouncement does not require any sort of reply from you. You should file this person's attitude in your "...WhatEVER" file.

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