ArcaMax

Your officer-friend is telling you exactly where he stands. He is saying, "This is what works for me. If it doesn't work for you, you should find someone else." If he was more into you, he would probably beat a path to your door, no matter the distance. But -- he is not.

You are saying, "But this doesn't work for me."

Boom. You have your answer.

Dear Amy: I agreed to be the maid of honor at a friend's wedding -- six months from now. She has been with the guy for just over a year.

The bride admitted to a mutual friend that she knows she's the groom's rebound girl and is only marrying him because he asked. I feel like I should tell the groom this -- just in case the marriage doesn't last.

I feel that she isn't getting married for the right reasons.

Not only is she expecting me and my boyfriend to pay gobs of money to attend the destination wedding that she can't afford, but she has also been messaging my boyfriend behind my back (my boyfriend is showing me the messages), saying how she can't wait for the wedding -- so my boyfriend can see her in a bikini.

I'm to the point now where I want to drop out of the wedding party, but I have already paid for my trip. What do I do? I've tried confronting her, but she denies it all.

-- Don't Know What to Do

Dear Don't Know: This sort of frenemy drama is how I'm getting through the winter. So -- thanks for that.

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