Nurse and cop put in a dating shift
Dear Amy: I am a nurse. I started dating a police officer seven months ago.
We like each other and are getting along. We are both working full time and going to school.
He lives two hours away from me. While we talk on the phone daily, he only wants to see me once every six or seven weeks.
I asked him if we could see each other once every four weeks (because I know he is busy), but he doesn't want that. He says, "This is the only way the relationship works."
I complained a few times and asked him if we could see each other more often.
He suggested that I should find a new guy. I am offended. I like him so much, but I am lonely. I feel like he has more fun being alone rather than being with me.
Does this man even want to be in a relationship? Am I forcing myself on him?
-- Confused Girl
Dear Confused: Your question prompted me to do some reading on the whole nurse-police officer dating nexus, and my casual research reveals that, yes, nurses and cops can make great partners. Both professions seem to draw plucky, hardworking people who are drawn toward service, and can tolerate challenging shift work.
You don't realize it but you are lucky. Why? Because you have clarity.