Man fathered a child; now dreads the DNA knock on the door
Dear Wondering: I'm picturing a parade of women of a certain age belting out Helen Reddy's classic song "I Am Woman," so thank you for that.
Generally, the person who initiates a date will do the planning and paying. But if you are dating the same woman over time, you should not have total responsibility for all outings and meals. Healthy relationships are fueled by a wonderful feeling of balance, where you simply stop caring who does what, because it all seems to work out in the end.
Some of this might be generational; a younger woman might have a more egalitarian attitude.
Dear Amy: The letter from "Devoted and Caring Parents" made me crazy. Last year, our son and his wife raced to five (yes, five) Christmas celebrations, trying to please every parent, stepparent and grandparent.
We have decided that as a gift, we will liberate our children from having to be with us on that day.
-- Truly Caring Parents
Dear Caring: This is a very (and wise) generous gift.
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