Teacher's death triggered abuse accusation
Dear Amy: A few years ago, one of my former school teachers died suddenly and unexpectedly.
We were all surprised and saddened by this occurrence.
I recently posted a memory about him on the anniversary of his death.
Not too long after, a former classmate reached out to me asking me to call her. She informed me that the teacher had molested her and that it went on for quite some time.
I believe her because I recall feeling back then that something was off about their interactions.
I am now in charge of planning a class reunion.
One person on the committee has expressed a desire to pay homage to deceased teachers and classmates. This teacher's absence would be conspicuous. I know what happened to my classmate is not common knowledge. I do not want to include this man in a memorial.
How should I address this with my committee?
Dear Worried: My understanding from your question is that you don't want to bring up this allegation to others in the group because (at least in part) it would violate the privacy of this teacher's victim.