DNA testing reveals 'new' family members
I feel like meeting them for the first time at my wedding might be inappropriate, but I don't want them to feel left out. What is your take on this?
-- Do I or Don't I
Dear Do or Don't: I agree that meeting your bio-parent in person for the first time at your own wedding is loaded, and it might be overwhelming for you (and perhaps also for other family members).
If your father and his wife have the means to send you money, perhaps they can also afford to take a trip to meet you in person. You should invite them for a visit well before the wedding takes place. Otherwise, explain to them -- very frankly -- that you don't want to meet for the first time at your own wedding, but that you look forward to having an ongoing relationship with them.
Dear Amy: I could not believe your advice to "Retired Man," who had been given an antique clothes tree by someone who now wanted it back. You basically validated his anger.
It's just a "thing." It's basically a pile of sticks. He should have happily returned it to her.
-- Disappointed
Dear Disappointed: People form attachments to "things." I completely understood why he wanted to keep this item that he had owned for many years.
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