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DNA testing reveals 'new' family members

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

1. Knowing the truth is better in the long run.

2. Events that happened decades ago are merely history, and not scandal (especially true when the parents are deceased).

3. No matter what anyone thinks about the actions of the parents, the siblings did nothing wrong."

Hill and I agree that you should contact your sister to say, "According to my DNA results on the [NAME test], you and I are related. If you've received the same result and are interested in getting in touch, here is my contact information..." Because some people have done more than one DNA test, it's important to mention the name of the test on which the match occurred.

I hope this inspires you (and others) to reach out respectfully, but to also keep your relational expectations in check.

Dear Amy: I grew up without ever knowing my biological father.

 

In the last few years we have started corresponding on Facebook. He and his wife now send me money for my birthday and Christmas.

I recently got engaged, and he and his wife sent me quite a bit of money to help with the wedding.

I thanked them graciously and now I'm left wondering: should I send them an invite to the wedding?

It is unlikely I would have the chance to meet them face-to-face before the wedding since they live in another state.

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