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'Friends with benefits' relationship has few benefits

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

-- Worried

Dear Worried: When you ask me if you're being "stupid," you run the risk of supplying me with a descriptor I'd rather not apply to a woman with a young child. However, this whole situation is unfortunate -- because Rome is burning and you're worried about your Facebook status.

I do agree that this status is a sign of where your guy's priorities are, and while I'm not inclined to side with him, I do appreciate his embarrassment over fathering two babies (days apart) with two different women. Yes, he should feel embarrassed. He deceived both women (I imagine), and now his ability to be a good parent to both of his sons is compromised because one baby's mother is insecure and threatened by the other. This impedes his ability to be present in his sons' lives.

Your guy is not in charge of Facebook. You should post whatever photos you want the world to see. When people start to realize that your partner has two sons the same age with different women, he (and you) will face some questions.

Please understand that parenthood will not magically change your guy's character. You should get all of your legal, custodial and financial ducks in a row regarding the child, encourage this man to be a good father to both of his children, but understand that he may not intend to lead a monogamous life.

Dear Amy: My "adult" 23-year-old son is home for the holidays.

 

He leads a more liberal lifestyle than my husband and me, and suffice it to say not only do our politics not match up, but neither do our hygiene practices.

To be blunt, his BO is killing us! I didn't raise him this way and I absolutely can't stand it.

I just can't embrace not showering daily and not using a daily dose of antiperspirant.

How do you address an awkward and difficult topic with a person who is also awkward and difficult?

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