'Friends with benefits' relationship has few benefits
Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I have been on/off for the last five years.
During the time we were apart, he had another girlfriend. I didn't know about her. He and I maintained a "friends with benefits" relationship during our breaks.
After I became pregnant with his child, I found out that they were very serious. I learned that she was pregnant, too. Our sons were born nine days apart.
They are no longer together, and he and I are trying to work things out, but I can't seem to let their relationship go.
I know that Facebook isn't "life," but it bothers me that their entire relationship was broadcast on FB, but he won't even acknowledge us as being in a relationship.
He has never posted a picture of us or of our son.
He says he's ashamed of himself (not of me), but I can't help but feel like he's not being truthful. I think he's ashamed of me.
He tells me all the time: "You're not her," which makes me feel like he wishes he wasn't with me. He says I'm being insecure, and that he's never going to care about Facebook.
I just don't get why he could care about his Facebook status when he was with her, but not with me?
Am I being stupid?