Family affected by Las Vegas shooting not receiving support
Dear Amy: My son-in-law was shot in the thigh during the Las Vegas concert in October. Fortunately, he is now OK.
I belong to a religious congregation of around 35 families. One of the women in my congregation and I are also part of another (affiliated) group.
At a meeting of the group, I mentioned the shooting to this woman. She said I should contact the president of the organization. I received much warmth and support from members of this group. The president sent a memo to the entire religious congregation -- I know this because I am on the email list.
What happened next? Nothing! Not one person contacted me to see if he was OK, if I was OK, etc.
I am very hurt. Part of me wants to just silently quit the congregation. Part of me wants to tell them how hurt I was (even though shooting off my mouth has gotten me trouble all during my life), and then quit the congregation, and part of me wants to carry on like nothing happened.
Your advice?
-- Troubled
Dear Troubled: You should reach out to your clergy member regarding your concern. Say that your family has been through a frightening, dramatic and traumatic event, and that you would appreciate support during this challenging time.
Be frank and respectful with clergy when you describe your disappointment, even after this email went out. This is very much a pastoral matter, and your clergy should explain why your needs have been neglected, thus far.
This monstrous gunman killed 58 people and wounded more than 500 others, many of whom are still trying to recover.
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