Boyfriend's mom won't meet girlfriend
Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year, but I haven't met his mom yet.
We're both in our mid-20s and currently live near our parents.
This is a tough situation because his mother suffers from an undiagnosable condition that has left her homebound and unable to perform many of what we consider normal daily duties.
My boyfriend has told me many times that when he has approached the topic with her, she has been very interested in him bringing me by the house.
One time we even had set plans to do so and then she backed out a couple of days before.
I've spent a lot of time over this year being somewhat offended. I just can't help it.
I realize that she is going through something that I can't ever truly understand and that she is self-conscious about the reality of it.
I also realize that there are some underlying mental health issues that have been created because of her inability to leave her home or interact with others.
I hate feeling this way because I understand that she is really struggling, but our relationship has gotten very serious and I worry that I won't even meet her until our wedding day, if it gets that far.
I want her to know that I am very much in love with her son and that I care about her deeply, too.
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