Parents should help their kids be media savvy
Dear Sad: You took a lot on, and you weren't prepared. Your reaction now is completely understandable. For what it's worth, I know you did the right thing.
You will feel better if you close the circle by memorializing your father. Plan a ceremony and bury or scatter his ashes in a meaningful place. Play his favorite music, prepare readings and then gather with your siblings and his partner for a meal. My sincerest condolences.
Dear Amy: Thank you, thank you, for your strong and beautiful response to "Confused," the engaged man whose mother had pancreatic cancer. He wanted to rush the wedding, but his fiancee wanted to wait and "enjoy the process." I was so relieved that you set him straight.
-- Big Fan
Dear Fan: It is unusual for me to suggest that a person should not marry their intended; I made an exception in this case.
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