Husband is a Facebook troll
Dear Disappointed: I would encourage patience; you lost your mom and you miss her. Of course you want this loss acknowledged. But you seem bitter about almost all of the condolences you've received.
You don't get to determine which responses are genuine and which are a result of being "guilted." Many people won't send a card if they have also attended calling hours or a memorial service, or have spoken to you personally.
People approach loss differently; you react with kindness, but some people shut down. They don't know what to say, and so they make the mistake of not saying anything.
I hope you can deal with your grief in a constructive way; avoid keeping score and most importantly, don't let this change how you react to other people's loss. Sending a sarcastic note of condolence is wrong. A single moment of smug satisfaction would soon be eclipsed by frantic clawing at the letterbox to try and get your note back.
Dear Amy: I'm sorry you are getting so much backlash about your ridiculous stance about "cultural appropriation" on Halloween, but it's time for reason and logic to make a comeback.
I'm not Mexican, but if I want to wear a mariachi costume to work on Halloween, then I should!
-- Disturbed
Dear Disturbed: Um no, you shouldn't. One thing I've learned is that there are a lot of overgrown children out there who want to take this kids' holiday to the office.
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