Gun-toting brother-in-law wants to open-carry around kids
I believe he is disrespecting me for trying to force me to do something I don't want to do. I am a grown woman, for goodness sake, and I should be allowed to make my own decisions.
Dear Distraught: Your husband does not get to tell you to "suck it up" for a wedding shower. People have to suck it up for Thanksgiving dinner, or funerals, but a wedding shower can be a dreadful event, even if you don't feel awkward and out of place.
If your husband wants a family representative at this shower, maybe you could loan him a nice pair of peau de soie pumps, and he can go in your place.
Dear Amy: Regarding the letter from "What May I Say?", who wanted to know whether it was OK to tell her close friends that the reason for her divorce was her husband's cheating, my advice would have been for her to say, "I wasn't the perfect wife myself, but he made some conscious, unfortunate choices that the marriage just could not overcome."
-- Been There
Dear Been There: Great response.
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