Is forgiveness possible when someone continues to hurt?
Dear Disappointed: Being invited to a wedding does not obligate someone to send a gift. If it's a close friend or family member, you would want to, but receiving an invitation does not establish this obligation.
If receiving a wedding invitation did obligate a person to send a gift, then I assume we would all receive more invitations from gift-grabby strangers.
Receiving an invitation DOES obligate someone to respond and extend their congratulations, however. You say that 25 people out of more than 100 either didn't respond, or said they couldn't attend. That means that 75 did respond/attend. That's actually a very good response/attendance rate. This is something to celebrate.
You seem very disappointed, but I'm not sure why. I hope you can look back on your wedding day and remember joyfully all of the people who DID attend and who did celebrate along with you, instead of focusing on those who missed your special day.
Dear Amy: "Sleepless Sister" worried about her sister's relationship with a married man.
I think if she were my sister, I would also point out that if he'll cheat with her, he'll cheat on her. What kind of foundation is that for a lasting relationship? She may need to be there for her sister when Mr. Wonderful goes back to his family or finds a new love.
-- Wiser Woman!
Dear Wiser: This very logical explanation about how cheating works does not seem to persuade people, unfortunately.
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