A springtime fling leads to lukewarm feet
Dear Semi-Attached: This stepping away doesn't seem particularly random to me. I detect a case of regret-texting, and possibly cold feet - or rather, lukewarm feet.
You and your guy are both parents of young children. During your vacation week, he may have observed the impact of this relationship on his child, and decided to slow down.
He might not agree with your parenting style, or may have come to believe that you two have different values. He might be concerned about the dynamic between the two children. Or his child (or his ex) might have made a statement that scared him into backing away.
But when there are children involved, slow is the best way to engage in a relationship that may ultimately have a life-altering impact on everyone.
What you should do now is to ask him to be extremely frank with you regarding the reasons behind the temperature change, and make your own decision about continuing the relationship.
Dear Amy: I married into a tight-knit family. This closeness is something I'm not used to, and to be quite frank, it is very unappealing to me. However, I've learned to go with it. It's who they are.
My husband's cousin recently got engaged. Her wedding date is in mid-October. We are extremely happy for her.
Unfortunately, at the time of the wedding I will be 37 weeks pregnant, and we won't be able to attend because the wedding is over 14 hours away. My doctor has told me not to travel. My husband was a little bummed out, but hasn't expressed any real annoyance over it.
We've discovered that my husband's grandmother is extremely upset and annoyed that he will be staying home with our daughter and me. She said that she doesn't think my pregnancy and the possibility of going into labor while they are gone is a valid reason to miss this wedding.
She bluntly told me that I should make him attend the wedding on his own.
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