Sister wonders about forcing confession
Forgiveness isn't necessary for you to do what you want to do. However, if you can find your way toward forgiveness (regardless of her denials and behavior), you will find yourself liberated from this betrayal.
Dear Amy: I have been with my husband for five years.
His friends from high school make up his main group of friends. Some have married (or are dating) inside the group, and some have married outside. The girls in the group are a VERY cliquey bunch.
Every so often we "outsider" girls have to hear about girls' nights that they had to which we were not invited.
One of the girls inside the group was the first to get married, and didn't invite the outside girls to her bachelorette party.
I'll admit I also didn't invite these cliquey girls to my bachelorette party. I came to the conclusion that since they didn't invite me, I didn't invite them. It wasn't out of spite.
When any of the guys have had their bachelor parties, the outsider guys get invited.
I want to get along with the girls, but they are not welcoming at all, even though I've been with my husband for a long time. My husband also gets upset by this, but doesn't say much.
They will also take and post photos of them together, leaving us out of the photos, even though we are in the same room. This is upsetting to the outsider girls. Do we have the right to be upset? Should we say something?
-- Upset Outsider
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