ArcaMax

You should give everyone involved the benefit of your honest reaction to this. Your boyfriend and your friend need to own up to their behavior, apologize to you, and ask for forgiveness.

Your boyfriend also needs to answer the question, "What's to say this won't happen again?" If he blames his drinking for this betrayal, then he should definitely examine his drinking, as well as his character flaws.

Understand that trust is a choice. Although you won't likely forget what happened, once you deal with it, you should work hard not to punish -- and re-litigate -- this episode every time you have a problem.

Dear Amy: A very strange thing happened last night.

I found my neighbor watering our lawn. In the process, she blasted our house and windows with her hose.

I went out to inquire what was happening and she was very rude, telling me that my lawn was dead and that we obviously can't afford water, so she was helping us out.

I tried explaining that we're in the process of revitalizing our lawn after a moss infestation, but it was like she wasn't hearing me.

I had forgotten her name and told her so apologetically, but she said I didn't need to know her name.

She continued to spray our house after I went back inside. If our windows had been open, like they often are, she would have caused a lot of damage to the inside of our home.

The whole incident was so weird and she doesn't seem rational, so I'm not sure what to do here.

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