Mother's boyfriend grooms daughter for relationship
-- Not Really Stepdad
Dear Not Really: Yes, I suspect that it would ruin "Ariel's" life and cause her trouble later on if you have this relationship now.
But, of course, you have already messed up her life. You have groomed her since childhood by "liking" her more than her mother. You have also destroyed her relationship with her mother by rejecting the mother in favor of the girl.
Even if you would not be breaking any laws, your behavior so far has been despicable. Furthermore, like many sexual predators, you blame the victim and accuse her of coming on to you.
You say that you hate yourself for feeling this way. I hope you will let your conscience guide you now.
Dear Amy: I have a friend whom I've known for almost 25 years. We met at a singles' weekend in the Catskills.
I got married four years ago, and she recently asked me: "How did you GET your husband to marry you?"
She also stated that the only reason I said yes to marriage was to get him away from his previous girlfriend.
The last meet-up we had with her was a brief encounter on the boardwalk. She approached us and kissed him full on his mouth. Now, my question is -- what would you have said to her after she did this?
I texted her the next day and said, "Not to worry you, but my husband is recovering from a herpes outbreak." Perhaps that was a little too subtle. I believe that she is sending me some unfriending signals. What do you think?
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