Woman wonders if she is being stalked
Dear Amy: I'm 62, and have been single for the past 27 years, with occasional relationships. I'm quite independent and if the relationship was no longer working (for whatever reason), either he or I ended it with not much fanfare involved.
This spring, I met a man who lives only a few blocks away from me.
At first it was working quite well. Then he started getting angry with me for absolutely no reason. He started demonstrating terrible jealousy. I would leave the relationship, he would apologize, I would forgive him, and then it would happen all over again.
I learned that his ex-wife of 35 years will not engage him in conversation, and his children and grandchildren barely spend time with him. He told me that his ex-wife accused him of stalking her after the divorce.
I finally had to break it off, with no hope of reconciling. I have since stopped all communication, although he continued to text me, begging me to give him another chance.
Yesterday my sisters and I noticed him walking up my driveway. He placed an envelope on my car windshield. Once he was gone I opened it and he was returning a clip I had left at this house, along with a note that stated, "I miss you and if you gave us (me) another chance I know things would be different."
Is this stalking? Am I in danger? Should I start restraining order proceedings? Should I reach out to his ex-wife and see if he'll eventually get over it?
-- Grandma with a Stalker
Dear Grandma: You are not being stalked -- so far. Currently, you have a case of a neighbor walking up your driveway and leaving a note on your car.
However, given this man's history -- both his reported history and his behavior toward you -- I agree that you should be wary.
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