Daily pot use has wife issuing third strike
Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for more than two years. When we first started dating, I knew he smoked marijuana daily.
I slowly grew frustrated being with someone who is out of it and unresponsive. I decided to break it off.
He then decided (without my suggestion) that he would stop smoking.
There were many times where I was suspicious that he was smoking again. He had bloodshot eyes, smelled of it, would run errands that took hours to complete, etc., but I just pushed it to the back of my mind and tried to be happy.
Shortly after we got married I caught him smoking with a friend, when he had told me he was somewhere else. I felt so disappointed. . But -- I forgave him.
Amy, I don't care if people want to smoke weed, but it is something I didn't want in a husband or the future father of my children.
Last night I was cleaning his car when I found weed hidden underneath the floor mat. I also found eye drops and a lighter.
We talked about it and he told me that he feels like weed helps him. He believes it has healing powers (he has no medical issues). He doesn't want to stop.
I was very clear about my views from the start of our relationship. It isn't fair that he lied to me for so long.
I told him I wanted a divorce because I could no longer trust him. He said I was crazy for being willing to throw everything away over a little weed.
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