ArcaMax

Dear Amy: I was molested (many times) when I was a child by my mother's father. He told me not to tell anyone because it would "kill grandma," and so I never did. I was so ashamed.

I am now 32, and in the past year I finally got the guts to come out as a survivor. I also have PTSD, and it's been hell to deal with.

Since coming out, I've shared stories and memes on Facebook about "killing child molesters." Now my family has alienated me. My mother actually told me I needed to be in a mental hospital. My mother and aunts help my grandfather with everything, and pretend that nothing happened.

Several months ago, my daughter went to stay with my parents for a couple of days. Even though I specifically told them my daughter is not allowed at my grandfather's house, my mother took her to see him.

After that, I called my mother "a piece of crap," and I haven't spoken to her since. I will not allow my daughter to go to their house. They all are acting absolutely arse-backwards and are totally unfair.

In order to get messages to me, instead of just texting me directly, my mom will text my husband. She texts him to see if my daughter is busy or if she is available to Skype. He is sick and tired of being the middleman because of her pettiness.

This is an ordeal. I've come to loathe my parents now. They act like I'm the bad guy. My mother refuses to tell my grandpa that she knows he molested me.

Any advice going forward? Is it OK for my husband to tell Mom to stop texting him? Am I wrong to deny my grandfather access to my child?

Did I make a mistake coming out?

-- Broken

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