Spouse struggles to forgive husband's friend
Dear Amy: My husband recently confessed to me that he was unfaithful four years ago.
We had a great life, or so I thought. I was completely devastated and contemplated leaving him, but I was pregnant with our fifth child. Now I see him making changes to live an honest life.
I am trying to forgive him every day.
The problem is that he told his best friend about the affair at the time.
This friend, who is a pastor, stood up in our wedding, and spent time with our family several times during the affair period.
He chose not to tell me, nor did he "force" my husband to confess to me.
We are people of faith, where forgiveness is something to live by, but I am having a hard time forgiving this man for keeping my husband's lie a secret.
This friend has apologized to me. He reached out to me soon after my husband confessed.
I have accepted his apology, but forgiving him is harder. I am also still trying to forgive my husband.
I know the forgiveness will eventually come, but I want nothing to do with this man for now.
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