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Parents wonder about young man's 'intentions'

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: Our 23-year-old daughter is with her first boyfriend. They have been together for nearly a year, and they have been basically living together.

We feel that she is only seeing and hearing what she wants to see and hear, and that this otherwise nice young man doesn't really know what to do with her.

Amy, we don't think that he (or his family) value her. For example, he is going to renovate a house with his father, but the young man's parents have told him they will withdraw their financial help if our daughter is involved.

In addition, although the boyfriend acknowledged her recent birthday, the parents did nothing.

The list of indignities goes on, and we are hurt and disappointed for our daughter, whom we feel deserves much better.

We are trying to be supportive, but it is heartwrenching to see her basically throwing herself at someone who does not seem to know the first thing about standing up for the woman he says he loves.

 

What can we do to help her?

Does this young man's behavior seem like that of someone seeking to make a proper future with our daughter? Are the days of asking a young man what his intentions are gone forever?

-- Worried Parents

Dear Parents: You can ask this young man any question, including what his "intentions" are. But really -- the person you should be asking is your daughter. What are her intentions?

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