Engagement puts strain on in-law relationship
Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I got engaged a few months ago.
It should be the happiest time of my life, but my future mother-in-law is giving me doubts.
She has talked down to me as if I'm a child, even though I own my own home and am succeeding in my career.
She has told us that we cannot afford a wedding, has belittled our relationship and has been unsupportive.
Rude comments such as, "You only get married once... well, hopefully," have left me in tears time and time again.
I don't dare be left alone with her anymore, as it usually results in her hurting my feelings severely.
My fiance has seen me sob over her hurtful remarks and has gotten into verbal fights with her over wedding-related issues.
She says she wants to be included, but her attitude is terrible.
Prior to our engagement, I would have called us "friendly." I understand that to her it feels like I am taking her youngest son from her. But I feel that she is making this situation even worse for herself by being controlling, overbearing and out of line.
Help!
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