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Insulting in-laws' weighty remarks are not welcome

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: My in-laws always seem to feel the need to comment on people's weight, either right to their faces at a family function or gossiping about it behind their backs.

Ironically, they are not exactly thin.

My brother-in-law and his wife are quite heavy (my brother-in-law much more so), but his parents (my in-laws) only comment about his wife, exaggerating her weight over his.

My mother-in-law has said to my daughter, in front of everyone at Thanksgiving, '"You were pretty heavy there for a while, but you look pretty good now."

My daughter is the recipient of at least one insult per visit. These comments are usually made during holidays, and with these zingers being hurled on a regular basis, people are not eager to be with them. My husband will never stand up to them, and he's in his 60's.

Also, they never seem interested in anything we do, be it trips we've taken, movies or concerts we've seen or our jobs.

 

Whatever we've done, they've either seen it, done it or put it down as something or somewhere they would never go or do.

We continue to inquire about their lives, but they just aren't interested in ours. I've known them for more than 30 years, and they've always been this way.

I hope they see themselves in this letter and think about how hurtful their actions are.

-- Weight Does Not Equal Worth

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