Couple should be smarter than their smartphone
Dear Amy: My husband and I each got an iPhone recently.
We each downloaded the "Find My Friend "app. Ever since then, he has been tracking me when I go out, saying that he is "testing" the app.
I know this because the app occasionally does not work and when I get back home, he asks me repeatedly if I have turned it off, which I have not.
I suspect that he is "testing" this app more frequently then he admits to. I have no problem having this app on my phone, and never go anywhere that I don't want him to know about, but I think it is very creepy that he can track me.
I have asked him not to use the tracking app and to call me if he needs to get hold of me, and only if he is seriously concerned about my safety.
He thinks this is irrational and unreasonable. He brought up the possibility that I must be doing something that I don't want him to know about. I'm not. I am usually just running errands.
Am I wrong? I feel like I am being stalked.
-- M
Dear M: You feel like you are being stalked, because you are being stalked. This is a "voluntary stalking," because you deliberately downloaded the app, but all the same, you should not submit to it.
You should either use the "hide" feature or delete this application, which makes it possible for people in your network to learn your location, to stalk you, to rob your house while you are away (if your husband's phone is lost or stolen, your location will be revealed). Unless you and your husband are planning to attend a music festival where you will need to find one another in a crowd, there is no reason for you to have it.
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