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Girlfriend worries about future mother-in-law

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: I am a 23-year-old woman who has been in a relationship with my boyfriend for four years. We currently live together and plan on getting married and having children.

We are perfect together and I couldn't ask for a better partner.

His mother and I do not get along. From the very beginning of our relationship she has talked constantly about his exes. She will post pictures and tag them and invite them to family functions where her son and I are expected to attend.

For the past couple of years we have both told her that this makes me feel uncomfortable and that I won't be going to these functions if an ex or multiple exes will be there.

The last family function was three months ago. I decided not to go because his ex accepted the invite. My boyfriend decided he would not attend, either.

This caused a major uproar and his family is now accusing me of keeping their son and brother from them. I have decided I want nothing to do with them anymore.


Is it right for us to be upset about this? Am I being unreasonable or jealous? My feelings are badly hurt and I can't understand why they can't let these exes go. Can my boyfriend and I still thrive in a relationship if there is a strain between me and his family?

-- Worried

Dear Worried: Your boyfriend holds the key to how to both hold firm and help to rebuild your relationship with his family members. He should not put this all on you, but should say, "I don't want to see my ex-girlfriends at every family event. So if one or more of them will be present, please let me know in advance."

You are also going to need to get ahold of your feelings. It is inevitable that you will see and sometimes interact with other women who have been in his life. You should not freak out, but accept this occasional inevitability.


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