Something short. "It's not like the movies where the song is playing for the whole montage of the ceremony. What winds up happening is they pick a song and it takes 20 seconds for the bride to walk down the aisle, and the singer isn't even halfway through the first verse yet, so either the song is cut incredibly awkwardly short, or they do the whole song and the couple is just waiting at the altar ... for the song to finish." (Rachel Holder, singer)
Not so great for the ceremony: "Canon in D," Johann Pachelbel (both Grimm and DJ Digie said it's over-picked); "All of Me," John Legend (Burns, also overdone); "You Say It Best When You Say Nothing At All," Keith Whitley (Grimm: "It always seems to come off like the groom is telling the bride, 'It's great when you don't talk' ").
Best songs for the couple's first dance
"For You," Kenny Lattimore. "Or any that actually mean something to the bride and groom, a song that you see yourselves in when you close your eyes and listen. It doesn't have to be a slow song." (DJ Digie)
"At Last," Etta James. "Serious crowd-pleaser and easy to sweetly dance to." (Grimm, seconded by Campbell)
Your song. "This song will always be 'your song' — choose one that is memorable and meaningful." (Rudh)
Not so great: "I Will Always Love You," Dolly Parton or Whitney Houston (both Burns and Grimm, see above); "Someone Like You," Adele (DJ Digie: "Or any song that is tied to a past relationship"); "You Make My Dreams," Hall & Oates (Burns); anything with sad lyrics (Rudh: "No matter how beautiful the music might be, this day is a celebration, so let's kick off the dance right with a celebratory song").
Best songs for father/mother dance
"My Girl," the Temptations, or "What a Wonderful World," Louis Armstrong (Campbell).
"Your Joy," Chrisette Michele. "This one has my heart because the year this was released my 12-year-old daughter out of the blue said to me, 'Daddy, when I get married I want to dance with you to this song.' I tear up every time I hear it." (DJ Digie)