My dictionary tells me that personality is the "personal or individual quality that makes one person be different and act differently from another." Personality is "the total physical, intellectual and emotional structure of an individual, including abilities, interests and attitudes."
Personality is the sum total of all of our qualities. With this in mind, let's explore the benefits and ramifications of a pleasing personality.
Today at lunch in one of the family restaurants, after being served our meal, one of the hostesses came by and, with a pleasant smile, asked us about our meal. We commented that it was delicious, and she said: "I'm really pleased. We're glad you folks are here, eating with us." After she left, I commented to my wife that she was certainly a pleasant, attractive, personable young woman, and my wife wholeheartedly agreed.
Unfortunately, many people have forgotten that we can choose to smile and be pleasant or to frown and be rude and thoughtless. Regrettably, too many people make the wrong choice and, as a result, their personality makes them comes across as someone we don't want as a friend or co-worker.
There is only one opportunity to make a first impression, and all of us instinctively make decisions or judgments about an individual within the first few seconds of crossing paths. With that in mind, I believe that when we teach our kids to smile, to be pleasant and cheerful, to be courteous and respectful of others, and to pleasantly respond to requests or questions, we are helping them develop a personality that will open many doors for them.
Once the doors are opened, character will keep it open, but personality, not character, is on display in the first few seconds. Therefore, it's important to develop a pleasant personality and use it for life. Take that approach, and I'll see you at the top!
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