Sylvia Rimm / Parents

Oldest Are Highest Risk for Over-Empowerment

Q: How do I take back the power from an over-empowered child? My daughter is 11 years old and the oldest. Thank you!

A: It isn't unusual for oldest children to assume they know as much as adults while they're still children. First children are ...

Sad Boy Wants Only Electronics

Q: My child is 10 years old. How do I create an interest in hard work? He is already an A or B+ student, but he is a reluctant student when it comes to schoolwork and homework. He only wants to play on his electronics. At the end of the day, he ...

Perfectionists Avoid Challenge

Q. I am in middle school. I'm writing an essay on perfectionism. It was interesting to see that perfectionism can cause underachievement. I've tried different sports, but I've always ended up quitting because I wasn't as good as other people. I ...

Child Is Underachieving

Q: I stumbled upon your website, www.sylviarimm.com, and immediately became engrossed in what you had to say. Can you please advise me on the best thing I should do for my 10-year-old son? His teacher and I believe he is underachieving. I tried ...

Count Your Blessings; This Is Temporary

Q: I wanted your advice on a dynamic which has developed with my daughter who is a freshman at an Ivy League school and is the second oldest of our four children. Her sister is a junior in college, and her brothers are in middle school. She is ...

Most Parents Mean Well

Q: What do you do as a parent when you are being sabotaged by the other parent and grandparents, but you know they mean well?

A: While it is true that most parents or grandparents that undercut and give an easier way out than other parents or ...