Carolyn Hax / Life Advice

In With All My Friends

While I'm away, readers give the advice.

On "never leaving my children with a stranger":

You've had a built-in audience for this, because your children are always present, watching your decisions. What they're learning is that ...

Shocked At Having Kids

While I'm away, readers give the advice.

On being shocked by (or terrified of) the life changes that come with having kids:

Everyone having children needs to realistic. Forget maintaining the same level of intimacy and freedom you ...

Self-Diagnosing Food Allergies

While I'm away, readers give the advice.

On the scorn directed at people who "self-diagnose" food intolerances:

I've been on a gluten-free diet for nearly three years after my daughter, who suffers from Celiac disease, kept saying ...

Judgements and Reactions

While I'm away, readers give the advice.

On reacting to the news of someone's cancer diagnosis:

When a friend tells you they have cancer, I know you are thinking, "OHMYGOD! HOW DO I MAKE SURE I DON'T GET IT?" It is normal to wonder...

No Parties

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

When I became engaged to my now-husband, I explicitly told friends and family I was not interested in any bridal showers. My husband and I had lived together for years and needed nothing ...

To Pout or Not to Pout

Dear Carolyn:

Two years ago my adult daughter was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. She is very optimistic and has taken part in fundraisers because she feels she owes it to those who came before her who did the same. We formed a team for our...