Carolyn Hax / Life Advice

Relaxing vs. Giving Up

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

Is it OK to work your butt off during school, get a great job, make good enough money, and then just coast off that? I'm happy, but I feel a little lazy, too. I'm not motivated to make any...

No-Win Situation

Dear Carolyn:

One of my best friends since childhood announced her engagement to her on-again-off-again, abusive, freeloading, alcoholic boyfriend. She left him last year after he nearly killed her and she made some headway in life, but ...

Confused in CA

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My husband and I both work, and are excited to start a family soon. My husband loves his career and it is probably the biggest element of his identity. I like my job, but would really ...

Scared About Not Meeting Anyone

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

It strikes me that you hold romantic relationships to standards that almost no one could meet. I have never had a relationship without some of the "red flags" you've described. I'm ...

Watching From the Sidelines

Hello Carolyn:

My brother-in-law has two teenage children and he has decided his next hobby is going to be racing cars.

My wife and I are the ones responsible for raising these kids if anything happens to him. I of course realize he could be ...

Over-Achieving Husband

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My husband and I have an ongoing fight. I'm not good at a lot of things. I know this from all my humiliating attempts at extracurricular activities as a child. If I am not good at ...