Carolyn Hax / Life Advice

Confused by What-Ifs

Hi, Carolyn:

My husband and I are expecting our first child. We have been receiving a lot of family pressure to name him after my uncle "Ben." Ben suffered from severe depression and bipolar disorder his entire life; two years ago he committed...

After the Death of a Friend

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

A childhood friend of mine passed away suddenly this past fall. She was in her 30s, married, with a small child. I had not been close to her in many years, but enjoyed crossing paths with...

Squeaky Wheel Sister

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I have no idea why this annoys me this much, but my sister is a control freak. Recent example is that her husband and daughter will be visiting for a single overnight, but of course they ...

Minor Brooding

Dear Carolyn:

I've struggled with depression and self-injury (among other things) for years, and I recently had a wake-up call that I needed to change things. Instead of going back to college this fall, I'll be taking a leave of absence and ...

Is This All There Is?

While I'm away, readers give the advice.

On reaching a point in life where you ask, "Is this all there is?":

Please tell anyone who asks "Is this all there is?" to volunteer to help those less fortunate than they -- whether it's ...

Not Raising a Bully; Elder Care

While I'm away, readers give the advice.

On not raising a bully:

So often we hear today about "helicopter" parents who, in the words of the old hymn, try with all their might to keep their little "special" darlings, "safe and ...