Carolyn Hax / Life Advice

Obnoxious Boor of a Brother

Dear Carolyn:

Since the holidays are approaching again: I have a brother who will give some nieces and nephews gifts in front of those he is currently trying to snub. The nieces and nephews are as young as 2 and up to 20-plus.

It's not as if ...

Keeping Virginity a Secret

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I am a 19-year-old freshman in college. I have decided to lose my virginity soon, obviously in a safe way while using protection. Is it OK to not tell the guy I'm a virgin? It's come up ...


Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We don't live together. He and I have very different visions of time together in a relationship: In previous serious relationships, I ...

What's in a Name?

Hi, Carolyn:

I've got a problem with my fiance and partner of 4 1/2 years.

The good: He's brilliant, creatively resourceful, outgoing, easy to talk to, wonderful at supporting me with my health issues, and aligns with me on so many of the big...

Blanket Maker

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

Even though I have a great job where I earn more than I need, I still love to give handmade gifts with the considerable skills I have. One gift I particularly enjoy giving is a crocheted ...

Character Flaw With Dad


My girlfriend and I recently moved in together to counteract our busy schedules, and it's good. There are adjustments, and we're getting to know each other better.

I don't know what to make of her relationship with her dad. He keeps ...