Carolyn Hax / Life Advice

Dealing With "Not Under My Roof"

Hi, Carolyn:

I'm going to my boyfriend's parents' house for Christmas. We are 27 and have been together close to five years. We are self-sustaining adults and while we don't live together (although we have in transition periods in the past), ...

Honesty or Tact

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

When 15-year friends ask for my opinion on the baby name they're "considering," do they really want to hear my opinion, or do they just want validation for the name they've already chosen...

Blue Christmas

Dear Carolyn:

My significant other and I have been in a relationship for a few years. We both agree our relationship is headed toward marriage and have discussed the long-term future. We work great together and see eye-to-eye on almost everything...

Having Kids to Please Another

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

How do I know if I want kids badly enough to have them to please my very beloved wife?

-- Anonymous

Minds aren't stretchy enough to get around that.

They can usually manage this ...

Child of Prominent but Absentee Father

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My father is a very well-known physician in a highly specialized field. Throughout my childhood and young adulthood, he wasn't around much because of the demands of his work. I was not ...

Drinker's Partner

Dear Carolyn:

I understand what you often say with regard to always disapproving of your partner's habits. But, what if your wife is a functional alcoholic?

She drinks bottles of vodka every week (the jug bottles) and is drunk and passed out ...