Carolyn Hax / Life Advice

Children Outside of Wedlock

Hi, Carolyn:

In a nutshell, I have children with my wife and also a child outside of my marriage with another woman due to infidelity. My wife knows, but does not want to inform our kids. When, if ever, is an appropriate time to introduce the ...

Respective Sibling's Dating

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My friend Kate and I have known each other for years. After essentially growing up together, Kate's 17-year-old son (a few months shy of 18) and my 15-year-old daughter (16 in two weeks) ...

Grieving Process

Hello Carolyn:

Is there a limit to how long one must indulge their partner's grieving period?

To make a long story short, my boyfriend's father committed suicide several years ago, before I met him. He is a great guy, but he has used the ...

Obsessed with Appearances

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

The woman I love has some real issues with her appearance that I don't understand. The "ugh, I'm so fat" thing is just the surface. I tend to reflexively assure her, but she says that ...

Major Shift

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

I've spent most of my life working toward a certain career. Now, in my senior year of college, with acceptance to my grad school of choice and employment for when I graduate, I'm thinking ...

It's Complicated

Dear Carolyn:

My father had several affairs, left our family, and remarried another woman. We have confronted him about his sins, but he acts as though everything is fine and he has done nothing wrong.

I also have a maternal aunt who has a ...