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Homeschooling 101

Parents / John Rosemond /

With increasing frequency over the past ten years or so, parents have asked me various questions about homeschooling, all pretty much boiling down to “Should I homeschool my child?”

First, I am a proponent of homeschooling. (Full disclosure: I am on the board of parentalrights.org, which is an offshoot of the Home School Legal Defense Fund,...Read more

Teacher Is Convinced Child Has ADHD

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: Our 8-year-old is scheduled to enter third grade at a public school this coming fall. Last year, he did very well; nonetheless, his second grade teacher was convinced he had ADHD. At a meeting with the principal, school psychologist, school social worker, and the head of the special education department, lots of pressure was put...Read more

4-Year-Old Daughter Will Not Eat Dinner

Parents / John Rosemond /

Q: Our 4-year-old daughter will not eat dinner, no matter what. At most, she takes a few bites of what I fix and then says she doesn’t like it. This has been going on for over a year. I’ve taken favorite things away from her, sent her to bed early, even spanked. Nothing has worked and to be honest I’m getting increasingly frustrated...Read more

Have You Really Tried "Everything?"

Parents / John Rosemond /

One of the most common of complaints from today’s parents is “we’ve tried everything.” They refer, of course, to having tried numerous approaches to various long-standing behavior problems, all with no success. In many cases, the problems in question have worsened, as if they have developed resistance over time to any and all forms of ...Read more

Teenager Using Nicotine

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: We just discovered that our 17-year-old is using nicotine. He tells us he’s been using for the past several months, smoking two to four cigarettes a day to cope with academic anxiety and relationships. He tends to be socially reserved and has been struggling with academics of late. He appears contrite and remorseful and has ...Read more

Curious Toddler; Discipline In The "Terrible Twos"

Parents / John Rosemond /

Q: My 24-month-old is constantly wanting to be in her newborn baby brother’s face, poking and touching him. How can I help her with her jealousy?

A: Unless there’s more going on here than you’re telling me, you’re not describing jealousy; you’re describing natural curiosity and rather clumsy attempts to have ...Read more

Manipulative 8-Year-Old Daughter

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: Our 8-year-old daughter tries to manipulate us and her siblings (she is the youngest of three) with emotional outbursts and whining when things don’t go her way. She is mostly a delightful, cheerful child but this bothersome cycle flares up at least every other day. For the time being at least, she only behaves this way at ...Read more

"Because I Said So"

Parents / John Rosemond /

Two months ago, I conducted a two-day small-group “parent retreat” during which I talked about, among other things, the legitimacy and power of “because I said so.” One of my missions is to promote the restoration of the attitude that accompanies the calm, straightforward (the operative conditions) delivery of that traditional parenting ...Read more

Teenage Daughter With Anger Issues

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: Our 14-year-old daughter has difficulty controlling her anger. She has extreme outbursts fairly frequently here at home—screaming, cursing, and even throwing things when she doesn’t get her way. She appears to have no respect for us and very little consideration for her two younger siblings. At school and in other people’s...Read more

The Role Of Mothers

Parents / John Rosemond /

My mother was a most unusual woman for her generation. She divorced my father when I was three, went to college and eventually obtained a Ph.D. in plant morphology when women were not heartily welcomed by the nearly all-male faculties of university science programs. She also taught at the university level, and was well-published in her field. I ...Read more

Adoption Advice For Couple

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: We have two children, ages 9 and 5, and are considering adopting a third, perhaps an older child, even a teenager. Do you have any advice for us?

Answer: Do I ever, beginning with a caution against believing what you are told by adoption specialists about the supposed vulnerability of adopted children to all manner of psychological ...Read more

Grandkids Who Aren't Disciplined

Parents / John Rosemond /

Q: My husband and I need your advice. We are parents to one adult daughter who has three children ages 10, 7, and 4. They live about three hours away and up until two years ago we saw them fairly often. Our visits were often very uncomfortable, however, because she and her husband do not discipline the children. As a consequence, they are...Read more

The Benefits of Doing Chores

Parents / John Rosemond /

A major US newspaper recently ran a piece detailing all the ways children benefit from doing chores. Well, not all the ways. They failed to mention the most important benefit: chores, properly managed, teach citizenship values.

“Properly managed” means children are not compensated monetarily for doing chores. Another parenting pundit once ...Read more

Pre-1960s Parenting Vs. Parenting Today

Parents / John Rosemond /

A list of some of the more memorable elements of pre-1960s parenting is in constant circulation on the Internet and is especially popular with people my age who can for obvious reasons relate. The items include that we drank from garden hoses and survived, didn’t wear bike helmets and survived, could only take a test once and never had to see ...Read more

Teenagers Today

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Question: Our son is going to be 13 next year and we’re trying to be proactive about the coming storm. He’s been a good kid and relatively easy to raise to this point, but we’ve heard the horror stories and dread what may be around the corner. Do you have any tips?

Answer: The notion that biological changes going on during...Read more

Strong-Willed 7-Year-Old

Parents / John Rosemond /

Q: Why is it that no consequence seems to work for long, if at all, with my very strong-willed 7-year-old daughter? I have tried everything I’ve ever heard or read about to deal with her constant disobedience and disrespect. Some things, like taking away her computer privileges for a day or so, have worked for maybe a week at most, then...Read more

Parents Should Feel Less, Think More

Parents / John Rosemond /

One of the signs of these confused and confusing times we live in is that facts don’t matter. What matters are feelings and opinions, which are often confused and confusing. According to another author friend, this is the primary feature of post-post-modernity.

It’s a fact, for instance, that several reputable studies (some of which are ...Read more

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