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Girlfriend Expects Fireworks When Her Parents Meet His

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been with Tom for two years, and I suspect that he will be proposing soon. He is 27 and I'm 24. Here's the problem: He wants our parents to meet before he asks.

Abby, I have put this off because I'm sure they will have nothing in common. My parents are small-business owners and conservative. His parents are pot-smoking ...Read more

Readers Defend Parents Who Disapprove Of Cohabitation

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR READERS: On May 5, I printed a letter from a parent, Against the Tide in New Jersey. He said his independent, intelligent, loving daughters (both in their late 20s) have dated their boyfriends for five years and had recently moved in with them. The man also said he and his wife approve of the young men.

One daughter is planning to have an ...Read more

Boyfriend's Teen Escapade Should Be Regarded As Past

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been with my boyfriend for a little over two years. He recently mentioned that when he was younger (19), he had a threesome (two guys, one girl).

We are both over 35, so I realize this happened many years ago, but the fact that it was two guys is hard for me. I can't seem to get it out of my head. I keep seeing the images.

I ...Read more

Woman's Belief Of Parentage Needs Facts To Back Her Claim

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I recently received a Facebook message from a 47-year-old mother of four who believes she is my daughter. While I do not remember her mother and have communicated this to the woman, the pictures she sent of her children somewhat resemble my family.

I'm happily married with two sons, and my wife is aware of this and will support any ...Read more

Greet Fussy Daughter-In-Law With Open Arms And Minds

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My son is being deployed for 10 months. His wife and baby are coming to live with me, and I am thrilled.

My concern is that his wife is a picky eater and she doesn't do much around the house. Would it be too much to ask her to help with the chores while my husband and I are at work? How do I handle the mealtime dilemma? (She doesn't ...Read more

Oldest Daughter Wants To Avoid Celebrating Dad's Newest Child

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My father is expecting his seventh child with his current fiancee. I am the oldest of six girls; this child is expected to be a son. His fiancee is 11 years my junior -- 33 years younger than my father.

I recently started a family and have two children under the age of 2. For various reasons, I am fed up with playing nice regarding ...Read more

Teen Fears Telling Racist Parents About Her New Beau

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am 18 and live with my parents. I have a part-time job and I also attend a local university. My parents and I have always gotten along, and I have been obedient and respectful of their rules.

I have suffered from depression for years, but now I have finally met someone who makes me happy and feel like I am worth something. Abby, he...Read more

Mere Mention Of Marriage Causes Man To Run And Hide

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am 59 and have a steady, good-paying job. I was married for 20 years, but divorced 11 years ago. I am set in my ways.

I have been seeing a woman, Melinda, for eight years now. She's 51 and also has a steady job. We live 30 miles apart. Our relationship has been somewhat rocky, but we have also had some really great times.

Melinda...Read more

Burden Of Supporting Family Keeps Teen Under Mom's Roof

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm almost 20. I have a well-paying job and live with my mother in a small town. My issue is I don't know how to break away from her.

My older siblings still live here, too. They don't help pay rent, utilities, groceries or anything. Mom and I pay for everything in a house of six people. My boyfriend and I have discussed living ...Read more

Woman Raped By Friend's Fiance Must Share Her Secret Burden

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Six months ago, my best friend's fiance raped me. He is a man I've known for many years, and I didn't see it coming. I became pregnant but had a miscarriage two months later. I recently had to have a hysterectomy from damage incurred from the rape and the miscarriage.

I never went to the police or pressed charges, and very few people...Read more

Daughter Seeks Explanation For Mom's New Relationship

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My mom turned 60 last month, and I hosted a party at her house for friends and family. As things were winding down, I took a break from cleaning up to look over the birthday cards from well-wishers that were displayed on a living room table. Among them was a big, gorgeous card from Cassie, a woman around my mother's age, who I always ...Read more

Pro Athlete Can't Be Good Sport About Free Tickets

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have a dilemma. Last year my son became a professional in his sport, and he has recently become famous. Since then, everyone is asking for tickets to games because they want in on the action. I treated one relative who lives near me to a game with her son, and now her sister (with whom I've had very little contact) is saying she ...Read more

A Phone Call From Kids Is The Best Father's Day Gift

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: It's Father's Day. Maybe now is the time for people to forgive, forget and remember how wonderful their dad was when they were growing up.

I am dating a man whose two grown children live out of state. He and his wife divorced when the kids were young, and he tried hard to keep a good relationship with them. But even with the best ...Read more

Teens' Three-Year Age Gap Is Cause For Adult Concern

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am 19, and I like a girl who is 16, Cheri. My friends and family think we're dating, and now one of my teachers and the school officer think it is a problem that we are around each other. I asked Cheri's family if it was OK with them if I asked her out. Knowing how old I am, they approved.

My mom says I can be arrested for ...Read more

Bad Language, Racist Jokes Set Poor Examples For Kids

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I recently married for the second time. My first husband was verbally and emotionally abusive. My new husband is kindhearted and takes good care of me. I have one problem though. He curses all the time. (I don't think he realizes he is doing it anymore.)

I believe that cursing makes a person look ignorant. What bothers me most are ...Read more

Man Sends Widow On A Guilt Trip For Trying To End Affair

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been having an affair with a married man for eight years. At first, both of us were married, but my husband died two years ago. Since then, my lover and I have grown closer, but he won't leave his wife because of his kids.

I love him dearly, but cannot go on living life this way. He doesn't want me to see other people. Every ...Read more

Free Financial Advice Could Save You A Bundle

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Making wise decisions about what to do with your money can be tough. Insurance policies, mortgages and investment plans come with so much terminology and fine print. The phone calls, email messages and mail offers for products and services are endless, and some are downright dishonest. It seems as if there's a scammer -- or an ...Read more

New Driver Without Insurance Is A Road Hazard To Avoid

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My 17-year-old stepdaughter, Audra, got her driver's license a few months ago and has started pressuring us to put her on our car insurance. When we told her we can't afford it, and if she wants to be on the insurance she has to get a job and pay for it, she had a temper tantrum.

About a month ago, my husband wanted her to go to the ...Read more

Husband's Cocktail Time Is Too Much And Too Loose

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been blessed with success over the years and continue to provide a comfortable lifestyle for my wife and me. I will be celebrating my 74th birthday soon, and 55 years of marriage to my high school sweetheart.

When I come home from a busy day, I enjoy sitting down and having two generous cocktails while I listen to my favorite ...Read more

Wife's Childhood Adoption Is Secret Only To Her Husband

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been happily married for 30 years. Many years ago I found out, inadvertently, that my wife is adopted. (My wife has no siblings, and her parents died when she was in college.) Concerned that she might not know about it, I contacted senior members of her family to confirm. They all confirmed what I had heard and said my wife ...Read more

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