DEAR ABBY: I'm writing regarding the letter from She's Killing Them in Indiana (July 8) and your response to the writer, whose friend is HIV-positive and doesn't tell her partners her diagnosis. I am a disease intervention specialist (DIS) in Indiana and work specifically with STDs like HIV.
In Indiana there is a duty to warn law that requires ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I am a college sophomore and have been dating my boyfriend, Evan, for nearly a year. I am planning to take a semester abroad at the beginning of my junior year.
Recently, Evan confessed that if I leave, our relationship would have to end. He asserts that being away from me for more than three months would be too painful and scary, ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: My dear friend Iris is having her annual Halloween party. Each year I wear a costume I pull together without spending extra money. This year I'll be dressing as a cowgirl, and I have arranged to borrow a few items for the costume.
As a rule, I keep my costume a surprise and don't ask others what they're going to wear. By chance, Iris...Read more
DEAR ABBY: My husband enjoys sitting around (among other activities) naked. We live in a subdivision with 700 homes. I have asked him repeatedly to stop, join a nudist group or go home to his mother -- whatever! He says he's sorry, blah blah blah. But it doesn't stop happening.
The deputies have already visited to tell him to stop playing his ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I was invited to a small gathering of women. I arrived punctually, was greeted by the hostess and asked if I wanted some water to drink. I accepted. As I looked around the room, everyone else had a glass of wine. When one other woman arrived a little while later and joined our group, the hostess asked her if she wanted wine or water ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I am a widow in my early 50s. While I was dating a prominent OB-GYN, I found out that he's involved in criminal activity -- operating a so-called pill mill. On our last date he asked me to join an escort service he was starting.
I notified the medical board of the state he's practicing in and various government agencies. It amazes me...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I am happily married to a great man. I have a young daughter from a previous marriage, and my husband has two teenagers, a boy and girl, from a prior marriage. Like many blended families, we have our struggles, but one is becoming increasingly difficult to deal with.
I don't know how to put this tastefully, but I'll state it this way...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I have a friend whose 11-year-old grandson stays overnight with her sometimes on the weekends. She has only one bedroom, and I'm concerned because he still sleeps with her in the same bed.
I have mentioned it to her many times, and she says there is nothing wrong with it. I even purchased a nice air mattress, very easy to inflate, ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: My wife used the search feature for the Ashley Madison emails and discovered an old account I had signed up for late one night, before we were together. I had forgotten all about it. When she brought it up, I panicked and lied because I was embarrassed, but immediately told her what it was. She was upset, but I explained the situation...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I have anger issues and sometimes I take it out on the ones I love. When my fiancee recently told me we are having a child, I hoped my attitude would change. It hasn't, and at times it has gotten worse. I hit her last night and it left a mark.
I feel awful for the pain I continue to cause her, and I keep telling myself this is the ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I'm a 17-year-old girl, and all my life I have had trouble accepting gifts, even inexpensive ones. I do believe it's the thought that counts, but I have trouble expressing gratitude.
An example: My brother was disappointed by my reaction when he got me soap shaped like a rock last Christmas. My smile was forced. I feel anxious when I...Read more
DEAR ABBY: Our family dog recently passed away after a year-long decline. I had grown up with him. He had reached the point where he needed daily care for his body, even though his mind was 100 percent there. Near the end, things got very bad. I got only about four hours of broken sleep a night caring for him, and no one in the family would help...Read more
DEAR ABBY: My situation is upsetting and I don't know what to do anymore. My girlfriend, Dana, is pregnant. My ex-wife showed up at our door with terminal cancer and nowhere to go. When I told her she could stay with us, Dana moved out.
There is no one that my ex can rely on except me. I am torn. I love Dana and don't want to lose her, but I ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for 22 years. My father-in-law's health declined and he died last year. My mother-in-law, Babe, and I didn't get on well in the past, but we have seemed to patch things up.
Since my father-in-law's death, she has become very needy. As a result, my father has been at her beck and call, and I have ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I have lived in the United States for 40 years. My first 32 years were spent in Puerto Rico, so I speak with an accent. My problem is almost everyone I meet asks me where I'm from. I usually try to disguise my discomfort by jokingly asking them to guess.
The truth is, I feel singled out as being different and not belonging. My ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: My mom recently separated from her husband. They're in the process of getting divorced, and she is already talking to another man. She has known him since high school, but they only recently reconnected again.
Last night they finally decided to go out. She says they're just friends, but she got home at 5:30 a.m., wasted. She woke me ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I'm a woman who has always had trouble with women friends who like to call and chat. It has never really been my thing.
One of them never asks if I'm busy; she just plunges into a conversation that usually lasts an hour. I never call her. If she asks me to return her call, I'll wait a day or two. I'm afraid to tell her I don't like ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I'm 18 and live with my boyfriend, Austin, at his parents' house because, frankly, my mom is too much for me to handle.
I graduated from high school with no plan for anything afterward. I was going to follow Austin to the school of his choice, but then he changed his mind about college. I'm happy to stay here in Colorado, but I now ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: There are no words to express how disappointed I am at the education kids receive now and still graduate with honors. I was at the grocery store a short time ago. Two young ladies working there just completed their freshman year at the local college. One of them had been on the honor roll all through high school.
I bought four ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: Your advice to Poor Birth Mother in Georgia on June 12 -- Because the college loan agreement with your daughter was verbal and wasn't put in writing, you don't have a legal means to force her to assume the loan payments -- was wrong!
Verbal agreements are enforced if they can be proven to be true. Even if the daughter didn't promise ...Read more