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Wife Who Yearns For Husband's Support Must Rely On Her Own

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: While I was nine months pregnant with my first child, I asked my husband what he would say if I had any problem during my delivery and he was asked to choose between me or the baby. His answer was, Of course I'd pick the baby because you can never replace the baby. His answer broke my heart. Four days later, my water broke at 36 weeks...Read more

Jailed Addict Needs Release From His Low Self-Esteem

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 23 years old and currently in the county jail. I'm gay and also an addict, having battled a heroin addiction for the past five years.

I managed to stay clean for almost two years. During that time I enrolled in college, got engaged, regained the respect of my family and started to have a normal life. Things were going very well ...Read more

Better Mental Health Care May Prevent Future Violence

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have listened to our president and various candidates comment on gun control after the shooting at the college in Oregon. Do you remember the saying, Guns don't kill people. People kill people? Gun control is not going to stop this.

What is needed (or at least would help) is more mental health care. It seems every time a ...Read more

Man Working With Wife Takes Professional Attitude Too Far

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have a great relationship. We work in the same school system. He's an administrator; I am a counselor.

We sometimes go to joint meetings, but when we do, he always acts awkward, like he doesn't even know me. I understand we have to behave professionally, but not as if we don't know each other. Recently, we were ...Read more

Daughter Fights To Free Mom From Her Culture Of Sacrifice

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 22 and my mom is probably my best friend. She's from Lebanon and grew up during a time of war. Her culture taught her to sacrifice -- to put the needs of others before her own. She has a good job and earns an excellent salary.

My father is retired. Their marriage is not a good one, and Mom is in sort of a rut. She dresses sloppy ...Read more

Aunt Weighs Responsibility For Her Late-In-Life Nephew

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DEAR ABBY: My sister Adele chose to adopt a baby boy when she was in her late 50s. She isn't married. Before the adoption, she asked me if something happened to her, would I take care of the child. I had already raised my children and was going through a divorce, so I said, No. I'm too old and I want to enjoy my future retirement. She got mad.

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Feelings Hurt In High School Linger Long After Graduation

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DEAR ABBY: I loved the letter from Ready for the Reunion (July 31), who wondered why some people in her high school graduating class didn't respond to the notice of the reunion. Some of us would like to completely forget high school and everything associated with it.

I missed my 10th, 20th, 30th and 40th year reunions. I did consider going to ...Read more

Woman's Vow Of Celibacy Is Tested By Her Friends

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a 28-year-old woman who has decided, after 11 years and 50-plus partners, to become celibate. A couple of friends have attempted to get me to break my vow. These men know how they make me feel, and I am finding it difficult to stay away from them. Although I have stopped spending time with them, I still feel the urge to be with ...Read more

Moving To The Desert Makes Woman Thirst For Former Life

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Last year my boyfriend and I moved across the country to Arizona so he could be closer to his friends and family. My entire family lives on the East Coast.

Recently it seems like our plan to marry and start a family keeps getting pushed further and further into the future. I'm 35; he's 47. Neither of us has been married or has kids. ...Read more

Husband Working At Strip Club Gets Dressing-Down From Wife

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband works as a bouncer at a strip club. I was OK with it at first, but then he started making friends with the dancers and waitresses. They exchange phone numbers, and he talks to some of them late at night when I'm sleeping. I get upset and jealous that these women are getting his time. It causes fights. What should I do? -- ...Read more

Husband Who Helped Ex-Wife Heal Now Must Heal Himself

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: When reading letters in your column concerning breast cancer, my heart goes out to every single person who has ever been diagnosed with this terrible disease. I have no respect for any man who cuts and runs when his wife is diagnosed with cancer.

But what do you think about a woman who is diagnosed and whose husband remains with her ...Read more

Daughter Wants To Withdraw From Dad's Battle With Booze

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 15 and live with my parents. My dad is an alcoholic who has finally figured out that he has had a problem for years. When I was in sixth grade, he left me once in the middle of the night (Mom was out of town) to go out drinking. Ever since that night, I have felt so much pain. I feel like I'm not important -- or why else would he ...Read more

Obsessive Mom Can't Bear Her Toddler Sleeping Out Of Sight

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: When my husband and I bought our house, having children wasn't yet on our minds. The master bedroom is at one end of the house; the other two bedrooms are at the opposite end.

Two years into our marriage we got a surprise blessing -- a baby girl. She's now 3 and still sleeping in our room in her own toddler bed. She has great ...Read more

Woman's Male Roommate Wants To Be Friends With No Benefits

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DEAR ABBY: I am a divorcee with a problem. My longtime friend Paul and I decided to move in together so I could save some money because of my very expensive divorce. The problem is, I think I am falling for him, and I get really jealous when he brings dates home.

When I told him I'm starting to have feelings for him, he said he cares for me, ...Read more

Husband Upset By Wife Who Wears Heart On Her Sleeve

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DEAR ABBY: I'm a mostly happily married wife and mother. I love tattoos. When I was younger, I was engaged to my soul mate. His name is tattooed on my wrists in honor of the love we shared. Unfortunately, he was killed in a car accident.

Several years later, I met and married my husband, Brett. When we fight he brings up the tattoos. He says ...Read more

Special-Needs Daughter Gets Little Notice From Dad's Family

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: A year ago, I ended a turbulent five-year relationship with my boyfriend, Alex, that resulted in a special-needs child. Alex is not living in reality when it comes to our daughter's disabilities, and his family is not present in her life.

Our daughter, Meghan, spent months in the hospital before she was healthy enough to come home, ...Read more

Husband's Long Tresses Are Stressing His Wife

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband, who has a beautiful head of dark curly hair, decided to let it grow. It is now about halfway down his back. Sometimes he braids it or pulls it into a ponytail. Other times he wears it down and it falls loose. The problem is, I can't bear to look at him.

He has always been clean-cut and had short hair. But as time has gone...Read more

Mom Faces Tough Choice If Daughter Decides To Move

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a 68-year-old woman. For the past seven years, I have lived with my daughter, my only child. We have always had a great relationship, and now as adults, we have a great friendship. She and her husband recently separated, and she now has a boyfriend. She has an excellent job and has been talking lately about asking for a transfer ...Read more

The New Girl At School Isn't Shy Around Boys

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 17-year-old girl in high school. Recently, I became friends with a new girl at school. She's 15. She has a boyfriend at her old school, but she talks to guys at this school she thinks are cute. She told me some of them want to hook up with her and she seems happy about it. She even talked about going to a school dance with them....Read more

Family Offers Little Sympathy After Online Boyfriend's Death

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a 20-year-old woman. A few months ago, my boyfriend (my very first boyfriend) committed suicide. I feel absolutely destroyed.

The problem is, my family doesn't regard my feelings of grief seriously because our relationship was started and maintained online. We lived several states apart, and while we never met in person, we ...Read more

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