DEAR ABBY: Have you any advice for handling nostalgia? While it can be pleasant, lately I have been getting very down when I think about my past. I'm sad that I can never relive those experiences, and I'm wondering what's wrong with my life now that makes me feel this way.
I'm 25 and have a lot of life ahead of me. Now that I think about it, I ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: My fiancee of three years, Ellen, is wonderful to me and she loves my daughters dearly. However, when it comes to my ex-wife, Ellen can be downright nasty.
I divorced my ex-wife many years ago because she wasn't good to me, but my kids see her half the time and love her because she's their mom, and I encourage them to do that. Ellen ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: My sister-in-law quit her job and moved into my in-laws' basement six years ago. I think there may have been an emotional breakdown having to do with her work. I also think it upsets my mother-in-law to have her adult daughter living this life. Mom isn't willing to ask her to move out or even discuss the situation.
This was fine ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married 22 years, and we had a good marriage until recently. Over the last three years she has become more and more consumed with her phone and tablet. She goes nowhere and does nothing without them.
Every night and weekend she sits engrossed in both devices until well after I have gone to bed. If I ask what ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: The wedding night I had dreamed about forever was supposed to be the most romantic and amazing of my life with the one person I can't live without. Instead, it was the most humiliating experience I have ever had. I dressed in a beautiful negligee, and my husband didn't even take a second look at me. I was so embarrassed, I rolled over...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 36 years to a woman who is a pediatric physical therapist. A number of her youngsters are disabled or abused, and their lives can be a struggle. This results in emotional, intense workdays for my wife. She brings these stories home and shares them with me.
Over the years on three or four occasions, I have ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I'm nearly 100 percent sure my husband is cheating on me. I tracked him a couple of times using the GPS on his phone and saw he wasn't where he told me he would be. I know he has a female acquaintance who lives in the general area of where he was, so I did a little investigating. Sure enough, she lives exactly where he was. I don't ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: Eleven years ago my husband had a prostatectomy, which left him impotent. His sex drive dropped from 100 to zero. I have told him many times I don't care what he can or can't do. I have also told him I married him in sickness and health, and if this is the worst thing to happen, we are pretty lucky.
This is the man I couldn't walk by...Read more
Blood On the IceSteve Novak
As I started my snowmobile for a late afternoon ride that fateful day back in 1974, little did I know that my parents and 11 year old brother were fighting for their lives in a high mountain pass at that very moment. The small Piper aircraft they had been flying home in had just slammed into ...
DEAR ABBY: I am a lesbian, still in high school, who has not yet come out to any friends or family. I want them to know, but I'm afraid to tell them.
I'm pretty sure this is who I am, and I don't want them to dismiss my identity. I also don't want them to think of me differently -- I want to be the same person in their eyes as I was before I ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: A man I work with found a dog on his way to the office. He picked it up, took it home and was immediately talking about what a good playmate the dog would make. He said he tried to call the local animal shelter, but was put on hold twice, so he gave up.
I felt he should have made more of an attempt to find the owner before claiming ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: In my family alone, three young women have -- by their own admission -- gotten pregnant on purpose to get their boyfriends to marry and support them. None of these marriages worked out. The horrible relationships were and still are hurtful and damaging, not only to the children, but also to the rest of the family. I'm aware of several...Read more
DEAR ABBY: My husband, Sam, and I have been married three years and have a good relationship. He's a wonderful father and husband, and I really couldn't ask for much more.
However, there is one thing I just don't know what to do about. He had a rough divorce from his first wife, who was also the first woman he ever had sex with (they waited ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: Two years ago, I met a gentleman, and he eventually decided we were soul mates. I agreed. Over time, we shared our life stories, good and bad. I confided that I'd had an abortion at the age of 18, which has haunted me all my adult life.
Recently he was reciting a chronology of my life. When he got to the abortion, he said, ... and ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I met an amazing man and have been dating him for about three months. It was almost love at first sight. I say almost because I was hesitant to get involved since I am his boss.
My problem is, for six years I was in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. My ex threw me through a wall, leaving me with broken ribs and ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I'm retiring at the end of this year after 50 years of full-time employment and I'm very excited about it. Looking back over my life, I see there have been several life-changing events ... marriage, the births of our children, buying a home and, now, retirement.
My wife gets irritated every time I say (about twice a week), When I ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: Recently, my husband was asked to be the best man at his friend's wedding. The happy couple did not have the financial means to hire a photographer, so I was asked to take pictures of the ceremony and reception.
I'm not a professional photographer, and the bride knows that. I gladly photographed the nuptials on the couple's big day. ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I had a close friend from middle school into adulthood. (I'll call her Lacey.) We were each other's maids of honor and best friends for years. A few years ago we had a falling out. She was going through a tough time and lashed out at me. When I tried to have a conversation with her to tell her I didn't like how she was treating me, ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I'm writing in response to Not Talking About the Future (March 24), whose wife has breast cancer, was told she has only a few years to live, and feels sad when her kids talk about their futures. My dad was diagnosed with stage four multiple myeloma, a type of blood cancer, in 2006. He was told that even the most aggressive treatment ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: Are senior citizens having more affairs these days? I used to laugh at the old couples' sex letters I'd see in your column -- until it hit home.
My husband (age 68) ran into a 38-year-old ex-waitress friend. They had lunch, which led to emails and texts, which led to sexts and then a full-blown affair. I believe these personal/...Read more
DEAR ABBY: A family member has recently lost more than 100 pounds running and doing yoga. She looks fantastic. Yoga is the focus of her life now, and she posts daily photos of herself on social media. In many of them she is scantily clad and in poses some might consider risque.
Whenever she attends family gatherings or outings to public places,...Read more