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Angsty Over Wedding Plans

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

I'm newly engaged and having a hard time with others' expectations for what my wedding should be. I think marriage will be pretty cool, but actually getting married isn't important to me -- no poofy-white-dress dreams. This is my fiance's second marriage and he doesn't want anything ...Read more

Left-Behind Daughter

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

After many years of being single, my dad is getting married soon to a woman he loves very much. She has two daughters, younger than my brother and me, and my dad has gotten very close with them, which is overall good for him and for them.

While this has been happening, I have seen him less, mostly because my mom was sick and I ...Read more

Reminded of Her Ex

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My ex-wife and I divorced shortly after the birth of our son. I got really screwed in the divorce, something I do not hide. My son just introduced me to his serious girlfriend and, wow, does she remind me of my ex -- similar mannerisms, ideals, and general outlook on life.

I advised my...Read more

Setting Boundaries

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

Today my parents informed me (not asking) that they're coming to town for a month when my second baby is born, renting a place nearby as we have no room in our city apartment. I said, "Honestly, that's a little long, two or three weeks would be better," and they, mostly my mom, got totally huffy and said a bunch of stuff like "...Read more

Snubbed Over Perceived Obligation

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hello!

I've always had a good relationship with my husband's sister, but a few months ago when she came for a visit, she abruptly left when she found out my daughter and I had flown across the country over the summer to see my brother and didn't visit her adult daughter who lives nearby.

My daughter...Read more

Concerned About Prenup

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

My mom is getting remarried soon (she's divorced from my dad, future stepdad is a widower). We all really like Stepdad and are happy for them.

My brother recently asked Mom offhandedly if they were doing a prenup, and she surprised him by saying they were and that it would keep their ...Read more

Separated and Moving On

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I've been separated from my wife of 19 years and three kids for a few months. The separation stemmed from my infidelity -- a mistake I made to run from my marital problems instead of to communicate, try to work through them, and take a stand for my happiness. It was cowardly and I regret it deeply.

We are in couple's ...Read more

Invisible Disabilities

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

READERS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from Jan. 11, 2010, and adapted from an online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

When I'm in an elevator and someone takes it to go up one floor, there's the occasional rude stare or snide comment. This really bothers me because I have friends with "invisible" disabilities that limit their use of the ...Read more

Unique Way of Grieving

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

READERS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from March 5, 2010.

Dear Carolyn:

My mother has Stage 4 breast cancer and is near death. My family has begun to discuss funeral arrangements. Having lived in their community for 40 years, my parents have a number of friends and acquaintances that my father and siblings wish to invite to a ...Read more

Mother in Law Misery

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

READERS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from Jan. 4, 2010, and adapted from an online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

We just took in my husband's mom, who is pretty much an invalid. She has a million needs, she is cranky and she is making my life miserable. She is also making my 11-year-old daughter miserable. My husband has asked us ...Read more

Gender-Specific Rules

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

READERS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from March 12, 2010.

Dear Carolyn:

I thought you were right on in your answer to B. from Maine [about who pays for dates, Feb. 2]. You were correct to suggest kindness. However, I think your answer was a little simplistic when you said, "Note, none of these [rules] is gender-specific," ...Read more

Holding Onto Bitterness and Anger

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

EDITORS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from Jan. 4, 2010, and adapted from an online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I recently read one of your columns where you said it was easy to be unhappy. Do you think it's easier than being happy? With now many years of experience under your belt, why do you think people protect their bitterness, ...Read more

Stand Up For Your Faith

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

EDITORS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from Oct. 9, 2009.

Hi, Carolyn:

I'm caught between my husband and my dad. Dad is getting older and becoming very set in his political views. My and Hubby's views are opposite his but we do not debate him because he tends to be closed-minded and prone to ranting. Fine, OK, whatever.

But a ...Read more

Trusting Instincts

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

EDITORS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from June 7, 2009, respectively.

Dear Carolyn:

How do you know if you have good instincts when it comes to trusting people? I like to pride myself on that, and I'm sure I've been duped no more than the average person. But after a recent duping, I'm finding most romantic interests (or women in ...Read more

Retroactive Apologies

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

OK, so my brother and sister-in-law had an emergency and needed someone to watch the three kids. My partner and I volunteered. We are childless. We are also really gullible and maybe think we are more capable than we really are.

We decided to take them all out to dinner, just so ...Read more

Dealing With Life

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

I am secure in the fact that I don't want kids, and at 35 and very single, I have learned how to be alone without feeling lonely. I date when I want to, but don't make that my focus. I've been successful at work and recently expanded my hobbies by starting my own website and creating a community of people around that. In short, ...Read more

Not Visiting Enough

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I live a plane flight away from my family, and get only one and a half weeks of vacation a year. I get a constant stream of people saying they missed me at [whatever event] and I should come visit more.

I know that individually they mean well, but I'm not happy with the situation ...Read more

Refusing to Be 'That Bride'

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My stepmom wants to throw me a totally inappropriate bridal shower with her extended family. Her extended family who isn't invited to our wedding. Her extended family who I met only at her and my dad's wedding.

I've told her unequivocally no about seven times. She keeps coming back with different justifications. "You really ...Read more

Grieving

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

After many years of suspected (vehemently denied) psychological issues and drug use, and after burning bridges with an entire extended family, my 32-year-old niece died yesterday.

I'm overcome with, I don't know what, sorrow, guilt, relief, anger, ambivalence. I had enough stress in my...Read more

Is It Abuse

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I've been dating my boyfriend for 11 months. It's the best relationship I have ever been in and I love him.

Last weekend he found out about a social media account I didn't tell him about and got very upset. He found out when I showed him a cute kitten post on the site, so it wasn't so ...Read more

 
 

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