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Impending Explosion

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

Two close friends of mine have recently decided they want to explore a relationship together. Great! The problem? One was in a relationship and had to exit it to pursue these newfound feelings.

As her relationship was never one that anyone felt was healthy, we're happy she broke up with her significant other. However I think it...Read more

Growing Apart

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

Honest question and not trying to start a war! I'm a single, childless woman in my 30s. A majority of my friends and family members are parents to some amazing kids who I love.

Whenever there is a group get-together, the conversation almost always turns to breastfeeding, pregnancy ...Read more

Being Too Judgy

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

I have a friend who, by most any measure, has a lot to be thankful for. She has two lovely children and a husband. She's able to work only part time (though she hasn't gone back since child No. 2). They own their home outright and just bought a second in a beach neighborhood where they'll move once they remodel it. They travel ...Read more

Mom's Moved On

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I am having a hard time dealing with my mom and her new boyfriend. My dad passed away last year, and I am an (adult) only child. I know this loss affected her, but I don't think she's taken any time to see how the loss has affected ME.

I motored along for the first eight months or so ...Read more

Pre-Wedding Blues

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

My wedding is in about six weeks, and I am feeling the crush of family, emotions, to-do lists, and keeping up my regular life. Lately, I've caught myself feeling weepy for no good reason. Not just wedding things, but today, while listening through a couple of music samples, I became so ...Read more

Lonely and Worried

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I have been in a relationship for six years. From the outset it was a long-distance situation, as she was often off on extended work-related projects, but we had a very strong connection when together. We have been making plans that would mean my following her to her long-term posting. She has also been my best friend for all ...Read more

Plus-One Problem

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

A good friend of mine, "Lori," lives out of town. We don't see each other much anymore (she's super busy with school, so visits are few and far between), but we keep in touch.

My wedding is coming up, and though it seems pretty large (over 100 people), 95 percent of those invited were ...Read more

What to Do

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My daughter graduates high school in June, and I informed our family of the date this past September.

My stepmother called a couple of weeks ago and informed me that my dad was coming to the graduation and it would be a sacrifice, because he has a bad back and can barely walk as of late. She said she couldn't come because a co...Read more

Taken Advantage Of

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

When my husband first moved in with me while we were dating, he was a weekend-laundry guy. I work from home and like having my weekends free for play, so I offered to do his laundry when I do mine.

At first, he was immensely grateful and was OK with my occasional bad habit of ...Read more

Mired in Self-Absorption

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

How can I approach lunch with my self-absorbed sister who is visiting from out of town when I am in the midst of separating from my self-absorbed husband? I probably won't mention my separation because she will have a random friend with her. What can I say to myself to keep from screaming?

-- Mired in Self-Absorption

No ...Read more

Smothering Mother-In-Law

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I have a mother-in-law like the one in Monday's column. She has in the past made me feel smothered. Over the years I have realized that she is pretty much acting on "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" -- that is, she is a huge extrovert, hates being alone, and would love...Read more

How to Be Close

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi Carolyn:

I've upset my daughter-in-law deeply, but am not sure exactly why. She is a stay-at-home mom. She kindly offered to watch their 16-month-old son for the long weekend while my husband and son went on a special father-son hike for my husband's birthday. I thought this would be a wonderful ...Read more

Sad in Chicago

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hello, Carolyn:

After two years of dating and now nearly two years of living together, my boyfriend can't seem to stop ogling women. Almost from the beginning, he has taken to giving women in his line of vision a good up and down look -- sometimes in the middle of our conversations. He thinks it's jealousy that makes me so upset when ...Read more

Sympathetic Ear

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My 14-year-old son said to me this morning, "I guess I will learn to rant to you and not Dad," after a frustrating conversation the night before where Son wanted to tell us about football frustrations and Husband insisted on trying to fix the problem, including calls to the coach, ...Read more

Confused Wife

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My husband and I have recently started saving for a home, which means clamping down on our budget. I suggested we set a per-person amount to spend on birthday gifts for immediate family. Anything above that amount would need to come out of our personal "fun money" stash. He, however, thinks it's fair to set a per-family ...Read more

Baby Name Clash

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My family is Irish and my brother and his wife named their baby daughter "Aisling," a rather traditional name. The name is pronounced similar to "Ashley" traditionally, but they are pronouncing it "A-zling." My father insists on using the traditional pronunciation, arguing that it's ...Read more

Suggestion Creates Friction

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My 13-year-old niece is tiny and has a big nose. We live in a community where a lot of teenage girls have cosmetic surgery at 16. I suggested to my brother in private that his daughter may be a candidate for this procedure. (My 19-year-old stepdaughter and my wife have had nose jobs.) My brother was deeply offended and angry ...Read more

Scattered Over Dating

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi Carolyn:

I'm back to dating after a multiple-year relationship. Years ago, I think I believed it was wrong for people to "date around" without being explicitly clear that's what they were doing. Now that I'm closer to 30 than 21, things feel oddly less clear, not more. I am not sleeping with ...Read more

Wedding Guest

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I RSVP'd with my plus-1 for a wedding that is tomorrow. My live-in boyfriend stormed out last night in a fit of rage (not uncommon behavior for him, unfortunately), so now I am left to decide. Do I go alone? Do I not go at all? Can I take my 18-year-old son as my plus-1? The invite was ...Read more

Opposition From Husband

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My married daughter, with two young daughters of her own, has decided to file for a separation. I felt from the beginning that things may not work out. They were both young, my daughter just 22, and it was the pregnancy that mostly pushed them to marry six years ago. I remained optimistic and embraced my new son-in-law and his ...Read more

 

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